Let the fact sink in that you are a human. Realize that this both extraordinary and incredibly dull. You cannot do it all, so don’t pretend like you can. Know your limits. Don’t waste time hating yourself because you think you should be doing more.
Stop mistaking fear of vulnerability for independence. God has made 7.046 billion people and counting. There is no possible way that he intended you to walk on the earth and face hardships alone. Let someone know you are struggling to love yourself, to move on from him, to find peace, and let them walk down that road with you.
When you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror. Study yourself in your most rawest form. The tangled waves and squinting eyes that only a select few will see. Appreciate this rare picture of yourself for a few minutes before straightening up the tangles.
Run. When the world feels like too much and your problems are weighing down on you go on a run. Sprint away from every pressing problem and keep doing so until you are too exhausted to think about them. The simple act of running can be extremely therapeutic in clearing your mind and it will also exercise the young muscles that have aching to be pushed to their limit. Surprise yourself at how fast and how far you can run, everyone underestimates themselves, prove yourself wrong.
When running isn’t enough, travel.See something spectacular that will take your breath away. Or witness something that is a tragedy and let it both remind you of the blessings in your life and let it inspire you to help someone in any way that you can.
Cry. Cry for six minutes or six hours. Whatever it takes to get the pent-up pain out of your system. Cry about the boy that left you your senior year of high school or cry about getting fired from your job three weeks ago. It’s not a sign of weakness to cry, so get the thought out of your head and cry until every painful memory has been rightly mourned over.
Look up at the stars. Let the crisp night air keep you awake as you take in the wide vastness of this earth. Listen to your favorite music or listen to the music of the earth around you. Let yourself feel small.
Plant a garden. Plant every single daisy that you could find at Lowes. Plant them everywhere.Take all day and then take one day more. As you watch the flowers both big and small grow at different paces remember that humans are the same.
Wake up before the sun. Sit outside and look at the garden that you built as you sip your bitter coffee. Do this to remind yourself even with all the heartaches in your life, you can make beautiful things and your life is truly beautiful in these still and quiet moments.
Finally, find yourself so that you can completely lose yourself. Find the thing that you love, find the thing that is so deeply apart of you that you had to dig for years to discover it. And once you find it, throw everything you have into it. Drown in the thing that reminds you that not all of life is ugly, and how to take advantage of the beauty around you. Never let go of the thing that reminds you that you are a beautiful, messy, human being.